First off, if your a single mom…you’re a bad*ss!!
There are many things that I learned when I became a single mom.
I’m a hard *ss now.
You have to be both the mom and dad at home now! You can’t just cuddle and love on your children all the time. (No matter how badly we want to). We have to be the disciplinarian. So that means we have to get a thicker skin and do what is right for our children’s sake. Yeah it sucks being the bad guy sometimes, but hey, one day they will look at you and say thank you for making them socially acceptable human beings. Continues on the next pages…
I can handle my own.
This one was kind of hard for me to realize. For some reason I felt that I was a fragile little human who needed a big man to stand up for her when shopping for a car so I didn’t get taken advantage of.
But you know what sleazy car salesman? I do research on these cars now and I know exactly what I should be getting for what kind of money. And yeah, this mom can negotiate her way through getting a better deal out of you! Because guess what ladies? We have to now! There is no way someone is going to take advantage of me anymore.
I’ve become very independent.
I used to look for guidance from my ex husband and I always wanted to make sure that he thought whatever decision I was making, was the right one.
Now, I don’t have anyone to answer to! I’ve become the primary decision maker in my home and guess what? I LOVE IT! No one can tell me no when it comes to which bill I want to pay first, and how much money to put into savings. I am responsible for myself and my kids and I have no one else to answer to. And it’s interesting that I have now come to find, no one can tell me what to do either.
I can do more house maintenance then I ever thought I would be able to do.
Crap, the lawn needs mowing. Well, guess I better teach myself how to do that! Oh no! The water heater broke, well I better YouTube how to fix it because I can’t afford to have a repairman come out.
Being a single mom has forced me to think outside the box when it comes to home maintenance. I am forced to do research and educate myself on air conditioning systems and plumbing and everything else that can go wrong with a house! I am now becoming quite the handy-woman!
And the most important thing I realized when I became a single mom.
I can do this. I can do anything my ex husband did and even better! I have pushed myself to the breaking point a hundred times but I never quit. It has made me such an independent, self-reliant woman that I am so grateful for the pain I had to go through to get here.
And ladies, you are kicking *ss at being a single mom! It’s not for the weak I can tell you that right now. I can do things I never thought I could do in my life. I don’t need a man to help me do anything anymore.
We can do this moms 🙂 Keep your head high and one day your kids will look at you in amazement and realize how much of a super hero you truly are!